UNDERSTANDING THE REALITY

 
You heard right!! There is much difference between understanding a person and providing security for a person. This post is especially for the parents. Often we hear parents complaining about their children that up to 10th or up to 12th my son/daughter was topper in the class, but suddenly she stopped reading! Right? According to me, 75% of the reason behind will be from the parents and teachers rest 25% will be from the student.

Parents always think of providing security for their kids and will forget to understand them. Not all the parents are the same but these days most of the parents are doing the same mistake.

If you ask any parents the reason behind their son/daughter's change in behavior they will say his/her negligence and will degrade their children in front of other saying he is not good for anything. First of all have you thought the state of your kid. I will try to cover some reason behind

When you parents, after PU you think that you want your son/daughter to read well, he want to work in this and that company, he/she have to achieve what we can't achieve  so better to make him opt a better college away from your home. This is the first decision you go wrong, in the process of securing him/her you fail to understand them and will not let them decide what they want to become. This will be first hit on their dreams. Next hit will be from the lecturers in the college. First day first class they start asking questions about previous subjects and when no one answers their question they will blame the lower class(PU or SSLC) teachers. It will be followed with  the golden statement " you were topper in so and so college and you can't answer a simple question???". lecturers never thought of the embarrassment students have gone through. Up to 12th teachers will be caring and constantly monitoring students. Students will be praised for the good things they did. But when it comes to degree most of the lecturers does not give any attention. Once who provide attention will be the criticizers. So all of the scenes will make him to be like what he is now.

Now the after effects

First they feel insecurity in home. Next they start looking for friends  to share their in-security. They will in depression and will never think of the person he/she shares his/her in-security with will utilize their depression. This will next lead to so called love. Not all of the love stories will be real and not all of them will be fake. But most of them are linked with insecurity in home.

Now for parents I want to kindly pay attentions for your kids dreams and let them pursue their interested subjects. Moreover treat him/her like a friend and let them share their thoughts with you. Constantly praise him for the work he did. Motivate him to make friends at the same time let him introduce them to you. Give them some time to settle for the new course they have joined. Constantly visit college and speak with the lecturers and know about your son/daughter's progress. For lecturers, Just try to analyze each and every students, never embarrass sensitive person in front of the whole class. Give them some time to understand the course they are studying. Never judge the students on the basis of merit. Not all the first bench students are loyal at the same time not all the last bench students are useless. actually first bench students will only have knowledge where as last bench students will have common sense. when you lecturers call parents  share with them the good characters of their children not only the bad he did. This will increase their bonding. For parents question the lecturers that why my son/daughter did that you are saying bad about him? There will be no answer from him. Often the students who are daring enough to ask question to lecturers about their way of teaching is the one who is bad for them. So if one lecturer fells the same then he will make rest of the lecturers believe that the students is not good. Believe me this the bitter truth of the Indian education system that too in degree colleges. Lecturer are taking revenge on students. That's what most of the students learn from the lecturers these days.

I conclude with a statement, " understanding young minds will  make you understand future".

This one was really longer post I have skipped still many points. The message I wanted to give was believe in your loved ones that will be the greatest security you provide as a parent/lecturer/friend. For students always believe in yourself not others words.